Mother’s Day is past now. And I’ve come to believe that it is a hard “holiday”. I had a conversation with my mom and sisters the other day. My mom said that she had read this article that said that most women don’t like Mother’s Day. You hear stories and stories about moms that do it all. Moms that have perfectly dressed and behaved children. Moms whose kids only say cute and witty things. Kids who spend the day pampering mom while she gets to take the whole day off, napping, being fed, and reading a book. Women hear these stories. And they read hundreds of them on the internet. And it makes women think that they aren’t good enough.
The truth of the matter is that motherhood is messy. It’s full of dirty laundry and bathrooms, cooking, cooking and more cooking, homework, fixing boo-boos, stopping fights, cleaning up (usually a bazillion times a day), dirty diapers, spit up, fingerprints, and nothing remaining your own anymore. Anyone who says that motherhood is only happy times and well behaved children is full of it. And unfortunately, in today’s world, it is much too easy to read the blogs and compare your life to other people’s lives. Mom guilt is a very real thing, and I think that in today’s world, it’s only getting worse and worse because it’s so easy for us to share our lives and to look into the lives of others.
I was talking to a mom whose youngest son just turned one. I asked her if they did anything for his birthday, and she told me that she felt guilty because they just went to dinner with some friends, and then went back home and had cupcakes and sang him happy birthday. She said she had read a blog where the mom was preparing for her child’s first birthday. The birthday was still 3 months away, and she was already gung ho – making decorations and planning this elaborate party. Seeing this online mom’s preparations, and knowing that she didn’t do anything but have cupcakes for her son – all led to mom guilt. But then she said that she thought back to when she was a kid. She didn’t have a million pictures growing up. She didn’t know when she took her first step, or what her first word was. And she never remembered having a big birthday party – only family get togethers. And guess what? She turned out to be a happy, well-adjusted woman with great memories from her childhood.
Life isn’t perfect. Motherhood isn’t perfect. And just because you see it online, that doesn’t make it true. And I think that is what Mother’s Day was about to me this year. Taking stock, and realizing – yeah, I think I’m doing an ok job. Yes, I let my son eat rice krispie treats for dinner last night, but does that make me a bad mom? (Ok, maybe if I did that every night, it would, but we were helping my sister to prepare a party, and I just needed to keep him happy!) But my kids are healthy. They are (mostly) happy. They may not speak 3 languages, or know how to read by the age of 3. I may not throw elaborate birthday parties, or take them on world-wide adventures. But I love them. And I know they love me. And that’s all that really matters.
Do you know what else isn’t perfect? These cookies. I’ll admit – I really struggled with the recipe for a couple of reasons, but I think I got it all figured out for you. These cookies are ooey and gooey and super messy. But boy, are they delicious! These are cookies that you want to serve with lots of napkins. The marshmallow creme filling oozes out, so you won’t want to fill the cookies until just before serving them. And my cookies were slipping and sliding, but nothing that a little re-adjusting didn’t fix. And even though they are messy, they are totally worth it!
The oatmeal pie gets a makeover! A cherry and chocolate studded oatmeal cookie sandwiches a marshmallow center with a chocolate drizzle.
- 1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
- 3/4 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
- 1/2 teaspoon salt
- 2 1/4 cups old-fashioned oats
- 1 cup dried tart cherries, chopped
- 3/4 cup semisweet chocolate chips
- 3/4 cup unsalted butter, at room temperature
- 1 1/2 cups packed brown sugar
- 1 large egg
- 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 1 (7-oz) jar marshmallow creme
- 1/2 cup semisweet chocolate chips
- 1 tablespoon honey
- 1/4 cup heavy cream
- Preheat the oven to 350F. Line 3 baking sheets with parchment paper.
- In a bowl, whisk together the flour, baking powder, baking soda and salt. In another bowl, combine the oats, cheerries and chocolate chips.
- In the bowl of a stand mixer, beat the butter and the sugar until smooth, about 2 minutes. Add the egg and vanilla and mix until combined. Scrape down the sides of the bowl. With the mixer on low speed, gradually add the flour mixture, just until combined. Remove bowl from mixer and add in the oat mixture. Stir in with a wooden spoon.
- Form the dough into 36 balls, about 2 tablespoons of dough each. Divide among the baking sheets. Press the balls down gently until they are about 1/2-inch thick. Bake in the preheated oven for 10-12 minutes, rotating the pans once, or until the edges are set but the centers are still soft. Cool the cookies on the baking sheets.
- When the cookies are cool, spread the bottom of 18 of the cookies with marshmallow creme. Sandwich with the remaining cookies.
- Put the chocolate and honey in a medium-sized bowl. Heat the cream until boiling and pour over the chocolate. Let the mixture stand for 1 minute, then stir until the chocolate is melted and smooth. Drizzle over the cookies.
- adapted from Bon Appetit February 2012
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Coconut Moon Pies from That’s So Michelle